Cut Lost

I got 2 free GV tickets which we suppose to watch on 29th Dec 2006 at GV Bishan. I managed to arrive at Bishan at arround 18:45, however my wife could not reach there on time. So at this juncture we actually have 2 options:
1. to watch the 18:40 show (Curse of the Golden Flower) but missed about 20 minutes of the show
2. Or to watch the same show at 21:30

Alas, we decided to watch that show on the next day, so I bought two tickets for 30th Dec 18:40 show. I kew that on the 30th Dec we would be going to JB with friends but I was thinking that the trip won't be a long trip. How long can you spend in JB?

That decision proves to be a bad decision as what we get the next day is: to pay $16.00 for the taxi from Woodlands checkpoint to GV Bishan and yet we still missed 30 minutes of the show. Plus we have to leave our friends in Jusco (JB) as they have not finished with their shopping.


Financial lost is only $16.00 but the emotional lost is much more, as I think there are so many things that could have prevented the kind of lost.

1. we could have watched the 18:40 show on 29th Dec, and missed only 20 minutes, no financial lost

2. we could have watched the 21:30 show on 29th Dec, and miss only the TV show at home, no financial lost

3. we could spend only 30 mnt (instead of 1 hour) in Jusco (JB) and rush back to Bishan to watch the FULL show. No financial lost. There was a great traffic jam near Jusco which caused more than 1 hour to reach there from City Square (JB). We also have wasted 30 minutes in the immigration as my friends refused to queue frist then fill the immigration form, instead they filled the form first then go for the queue.

4. we could just forget about the 2 free GV tickets, and hence go straight home from Woodlands checkpoint. No direct financial lost, but indirect financial lost is the cost of 2 GV tickets.


The key lesson learned here is:
When you are already in lost position, analyzed situation in a cool and calm manner, and CUT LOST when that makes the most logical action. Remember: when you are already in a lost position, be LOGICAL and detach your emotions. Be aware that your emotions will make you try to win back your lost, and those emotions will MOST likely cause you to fall into a deeper lost.

I think cutting lost is NOT an easy thing to do, as that requires us to detach our emotions and think very logically. However, if you want to achieve great things in life you got to be able to do that! Gud luck to you.



Happy New Year 2007. May God bless you with good health and may 2007 teaches you to be a wiser soul.

Learn to let go, be soft at heart but hard in head

We need to learn to let go and let nature takes its own course.
We can be hard at head, but always be soft at heart.
Do not let emotion or hurting words sour our heart, be forgiving and always emphatizing.
But remember to remain hard at head!

I will always pray for you bro, pray that you will someday learn something useful for your soul and mind and may you be wiser. I pray that God be with you, always.

Lesson learnt from Heart vs Head

Remember my previous posting regarding the "Tough Decision"? Well at the end I followed my heart, I emphatized my brother and let the lady continues to work with us. My brother had make a damn serious promise that thing is over between them and everything is back to normal. I gave him the benefit of doubt, I took the risk in believing him. Well, well...what I realized today is that he is a person who does not care about his promises, and he will lie just to get what he wants. I was deeply dissapointed by the way he thinks and behaves. I don't know how I can help him. How can I teach him that he needs to be responsible? Responsible many times means: to give up what we like (to sacrify) and to do what we should do, to do what we have promised, and to think for others (are we hurting others?). I can only pray that God be with him and that He will always guide him. I think that's best thing I can do for now, and let nature takes it's own course.

Though the events turned out to be negative, I did not feel any regret for following my heart. Why? Because I think when I made the decision to follow my heart, which is to show emphaty and to give people chance, I've at the same time been fully aware of the worst-case should things don't turn out positively. So the key point that I've learnt here is that we should always be ready (mentally or physically) to take the worst-case. This sounded simple, but many people are not actually ready for such worst-case scenario, and when the worst-case does really happen they will start to feel regret with their decision and they will start the blaming-game.

Think worst-case and be responsible with our own decision.