My passion to learn started since the first day of my job, as a Cobol programmer. And it lives in me without question until one time, where I started to wonder whether continous learning is something that I've been doing right all this while? What prompted me to question my believe was that I realized that some people who don't put any effort in continous learning are getting a good monetary return (or perhaps more) too. My believe in learning was really shaken for a period, until I again realized after so much thought that what MOTIVATED me to learn WAS WRONG. My motivation to keep on learning was to get a good MONEY :) But I finally realized that was totally wrong, to get good MONEY, LUCK is also an important factor.
I finally know WHY I SHOULD KEEP ON LEARNING and LEARNING. Not because of better paycheck, but because of the values, as a human, that I can give back to other people. And that has since become my believe until now.
Who do you think can SAVE MORE lives ? A doctor who knows how to cure only one disease, or a doctor who knows how to cure many diseases?
If you know more, you can help your kids more.
If you know more, you can contribute to your society more.
If you know more, you can give back more.
To know more, you have to learn more.
Try NOT to give EXCUSES to yourself for not embracing life long learning.
Be positive about your capacity to learn (some experts say, even genius used only 5% of their brains). If you think you can, you can.
You learn more, you might not necessary get a better paychek, but if you are willing to give back more, you definitely can contribute more to this world.
I hope this sharing will be useful to you, friends.
Sunday, August 08, 2004
The love for our parents Vs The love for our kids
Observation:
I found that generally it seems to be very natural for parents to really love their kids. When the kids did something wrong, it is easy to forgive. It also looks natural for parents to sacrifice for their kids. So, parents naturally love their kids very much.But it doesn't seem to be the case for people (adult) to love their parents that much. Fact: both (parents and kids) are tied by blood, so it's NOT blood VS water. But, here I'm excluding cases where kids have been ill-treated by their parents.In fact, I believe parents actually have sacrificed for us MORE than our kids have.
[*** Question *** ]: So why a lot of us find it difficult to love our parents as much as we love our kids? Strange.Can we sacrifice for our parents as much as we can for our children ???
My learning and conclusions:
1. We think like this: parents care for us is their obligation or duty. I think this is a very wrong attitude. We are taking their sacrifices for granted.
2. When parents or kids made mistakes: we think kids are simply ignorance (and not because of some sort of selfish reasons), so we tend to forgive them easily. On the other hand, we think that parents should know exactly what is wrong and right, and they did what they did for selfish reasons. What I believe is there many adults who are as ignorance as kids, and the ignorance in kids is somehow rooted to the seed of selfishness. I believe if we adopt the same perspective towards both kids and parents, there is no reason why we can't be as forgiven to parents as to our kids. Where there is forgiveness there is seed of love. So, we should be able to love our parents as much as we love our kids.
3. Kids are weak. This is the only valid reason why we love our kids more than our parents. But, after they grew up, are we still bias in our love towards our parents ? If yes, then read point no.4
4. It's because of our very own nature, selfishness. Very likely, deep inside we are hoping that our children will be good to us when we are old. We know our parents can't, because they are going to leave us earlier. Only our children can. In fact, our parents might be a burden to us. I think consciously or unconsciously, inside us, we see more benefits for being good to our children as compare to our parents. But it's extremely difficut for us to accept this as a fact. Only when we are fully honest with ourselves we will able to find the truth. So, can we sacrifice for our parents as much as we can for our children ???
I believe we can love our parents as much as we love our children, if we :
1. change our attitude and perception (point no.1 and no.2 above)
2. be less selfish (point no.4 above)
I'll put in effort to practice and live what I've learned, and hope those who agreed with me to do the same. Practice and live what we have learned, otherwise it is a big ZERO.
I found that generally it seems to be very natural for parents to really love their kids. When the kids did something wrong, it is easy to forgive. It also looks natural for parents to sacrifice for their kids. So, parents naturally love their kids very much.But it doesn't seem to be the case for people (adult) to love their parents that much. Fact: both (parents and kids) are tied by blood, so it's NOT blood VS water. But, here I'm excluding cases where kids have been ill-treated by their parents.In fact, I believe parents actually have sacrificed for us MORE than our kids have.
[*** Question *** ]: So why a lot of us find it difficult to love our parents as much as we love our kids? Strange.Can we sacrifice for our parents as much as we can for our children ???
My learning and conclusions:
1. We think like this: parents care for us is their obligation or duty. I think this is a very wrong attitude. We are taking their sacrifices for granted.
2. When parents or kids made mistakes: we think kids are simply ignorance (and not because of some sort of selfish reasons), so we tend to forgive them easily. On the other hand, we think that parents should know exactly what is wrong and right, and they did what they did for selfish reasons. What I believe is there many adults who are as ignorance as kids, and the ignorance in kids is somehow rooted to the seed of selfishness. I believe if we adopt the same perspective towards both kids and parents, there is no reason why we can't be as forgiven to parents as to our kids. Where there is forgiveness there is seed of love. So, we should be able to love our parents as much as we love our kids.
3. Kids are weak. This is the only valid reason why we love our kids more than our parents. But, after they grew up, are we still bias in our love towards our parents ? If yes, then read point no.4
4. It's because of our very own nature, selfishness. Very likely, deep inside we are hoping that our children will be good to us when we are old. We know our parents can't, because they are going to leave us earlier. Only our children can. In fact, our parents might be a burden to us. I think consciously or unconsciously, inside us, we see more benefits for being good to our children as compare to our parents. But it's extremely difficut for us to accept this as a fact. Only when we are fully honest with ourselves we will able to find the truth. So, can we sacrifice for our parents as much as we can for our children ???
I believe we can love our parents as much as we love our children, if we :
1. change our attitude and perception (point no.1 and no.2 above)
2. be less selfish (point no.4 above)
I'll put in effort to practice and live what I've learned, and hope those who agreed with me to do the same. Practice and live what we have learned, otherwise it is a big ZERO.
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